No greater love

I love these words of Jesus. He truly laid His life down for all to be given the choice to be reconciled to the Father. A life He raised up again on the third day, so we too can be raised up to a new life in Him if we so choose to accept His most wonderful gift.

My path with Jesus leads me to once again lay down my desires and what I want to be the time line for my dreams regarding writing and finishing my second book. The Lord blessed me with a son on the spectrum. He has Asperger’s, and without revealing any more than that, he is suffering greatly. And when our children suffer, we suffer with them. I am still not 100% healed from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome, still struggle with pain and severe exhaustion, and it takes all of me to work my part-time job and raise and give my son the care and attention he needs now. I have no regrets and will never blame him in any way for these delays but count it an honor. I know that’s why the Lord gave Him to me. He knew I’d always be willing to “lay down my life and desires” as needed to do what is needed for my son and whatever else He asks of me.

My main ministry is motherhood and has been from the moment I held my son in my arms, and the care of my son may be extended because of his needs and health issues, but I will seek the Lord fervently through prayer and fasting for direction as to how I can best help my son be a loving and God-loving, independent adult.

Book 2 will be completed at snails pace with no idea of its release date.

God bless, and this single momma covets any ‘in Jesus’ name’ fervent prayers for my son and myself – healing all around, provision, and strength as we are making it through one day at a time.

“If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.” – Matthew 16:24

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” – Matthew 6:34

Remember Jesus this Holy week and this Easter Sunday.

My favorite Third Day song, You are so good to me:

Extra money working from home. MUST love children and have a Bachelor’s degree….

Hello friends,

I just got hired as an independent contractor for VIPKid teaching children in Beijing, China English. I opened up my schedule and the first week and have already booked and taught several classes (25 minutes each) and have several more next week. Average pay is about 14 to 22/hr (rate if two classes are taught). So $7 to $11 per 25 minute class).

Basic info:

You MUST love working with children (ages 5-12). You’d be a teacher, dealing with children’s hearts, confidence, etc. Not a job for a person solely looking for extra income. These children are precious and great to work with.

Have a Bachelor’s degree.

Must go through an interview process, including teaching two mock classes to demonstrate your potential.

Be able to work at least 7.5 hours during peak Beijing teaching times. (All in Eastern time, M-F 5am to 9am, then Fridays night from 8pm to midnight. Saturdays from midnight to 9am, then Saturday night from 8pm to midnight. Finally, Sundays from midnight to 9am). So, not a job for those who don’t like waking up early, but if you want to work on the weekends overnight, that’s an option.

You’d be an independent contractor, so you only get paid if you teach.

Must be able to be silly at times. e.g. using puppets and other props to teach ESL style English classes, singing children’s songs, etc.

Must have good internet speed.

To learn more and possibly apply, check it out here: VIPKid 

How to be a blessing to single moms and fatherless children at Christmastime #James127

There’s a fine line to doing this because it is can be difficult for solo moms raising fatherless children (in my case one son) to receive help because sometimes “help” isn’t really help which entails a kindness done without expecting anything in return – sometimes “help” comes with chains and the “helper” feeling he/she can exercise some sort of rights over the helpee – like bossing them around, giving them totally off the wall and not led by the Spirit of God parenting advice.

Disclaimer about receiving help. God wants us to let Him guide us in all things, giving us wisdom every step of the way:

I know I’ve been there. So calling all single mommas – fervently pray about whom you receive help from – it might not be of the Lord. It might be straight from the pit of hell.

Long story short, a very legalistic member of my church – which I unfortunately discovered after the fact – “helped” me by asking a nice couple to donate to me a washer and dryer they weren’t using and were just sitting in their shed. I was overjoyed. And thankful because my son and I hated trekking to the laundry mat every week. But you see. Some people do things as a show for man, not led by God, and not of the heart. Soon, she was overly invasive in my life, giving me very wrong for my child parenting advice, she and a friend of hers were gossiping about me and my son’s poor eating habits. I know because the other lady told me.

They invited me over for dinner. Lord help me, I guess I used to be a slow learner about these types of people. My son took one look at the food they had and said, “He didn’t like any of it.” I had fed him a little food before just in case. They were all over me about it. Wanting me to force him to eat it, like I had to prove something to them. Sorry, ladies Jesus is my Lord. Well, I didn’t know the dinner was about giving me parenting lessons. Gosh, I thought they were trying to be a blessing to me and my son.

Turns out, my son has Aspergers – so, though I didn’t know it at the time, my personal Spirit-led insight at that time for my son, the one the Lord entrusted to me, about not fussing over his food habits was from the Lord. My son has sensory issues. He can’t stand movie theaters – too loud. Still can’t stand haircuts – when the hairs touch his body – it drives him completely nutso. Many foods – overwhelms him, makes him gag, tastes too potent. Being around groups of people for a long time in one sitting – feels like he can’t breathe.

Honestly, so that the above type “step on her and her children’s necks” spirit doesn’t enter into a situation, the best way to bless single moms and widows raising fatherless children would be to do it anonymously. 

 

On that note, God says:

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There’s a great organization that gives grants and help to widows and single moms raising fatherless children and single parents/dads who homeschool.

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Note there’s a drop down list where you can select, Children of Single Parents fund. Visit them at: https://www.homeschoolfoundation.org

 

A note to pastors, elders, and church leadership:

Seek the Lord on how to be a blessing to single moms and their children. Let Him be your guide.

This isn’t every church, but this has been my experience and the experience of several single mothers the Lord has caused to cross my path vs. the experiences women with minor children who were widowed shared with me…

There is still too much of a stigma toward single mothers who’ve divorced and/or were left by their husband. Because of a religious Pharisaical spirit in many Christians about divorce, us and our children are treated very differently than women and their children who lost a husband by death. When we are in lack and struggle and don’t have enough food, there are no casseroles, or sympathy, but more of a “you’re reaping what you sowed. Must be that divorce you never should have gone through with.”

God said He hates divorce, He didn’t say it was apostasy, something unforgivable, something not worthy of redemption. He hates it because it traumatizes everyone involved and deeply hurts His children.

In Ezra chapter 10 (in the Bible), God ordered, yes God ordered, a mass divorce of His people for marrying idolaters. Sometimes we marry people who will lead us straight to hell, people who we never asked God’s permission to marry. God is mercy. And sometimes, it’s not His will for the marriage to be saved. He has better. He’d rather our souls and the souls of our children make it to heaven. This is where God says, “Duh, religious people.”

My Redeemer lives!

It hurt me and actually put great fear and torment on me, when an elder’s only response to me was let’s pray for the reconciliation of your marriage. Me, a brand new believer mind you. Grow some tact and a Christlike heart certain Christians. I asked him to pray that the Lord deliver me and my son from my ex-husband and to protect us from him because, hello, we were in danger My ex-husband threatened to kill me and “hide my body where no one would ever find it.” So elder man, if it was your daughter who this happened to what would you say then? And that’s ALL he had to say to me.

The single moms raising fatherless children I know, work, and do everything they can to provide for their children, and it’s never enough. These moms do without proper food so their kids can eat. They are beyond exhausted. As a result, some get so overtaxed they find themselves in a health crisis.

See how their cars are running. Send them gift card to grocery stores. If they own a small business bless it. Go out of your way to do so.

Religion is what keeps people away from God. It is God’s kindness to us that leads us to repent (Romans 2:4) and we are to be more like Jesus each day as His followers.

A final note from this single mom who loves Jesus and is loved by Him:

I recently published a book – a middle grade novel called Oswald Spoon and the Trouble with Invisibility. I would be blessed if you spread the word, purchased this book as a gift for a kid, your kid, purchased this book for your local Christian school (when on paperback), shared with a local homeschool co-op group or book club, churches with hearts toward single moms and fatherless children. Available at Amazon.

It’s currently an ebook and coming soon to paperback.

A portion of the proceeds from the sale of my book to go to anti-human trafficking and James 1:27 type organizations. I just made a donation to the Homeschool Foundation’s children of single parents fund a little while ago.

My prayers go out to single moms and fatherless children. Cause Christmas miracles to pour over them Father.

The Lord keeps bringing messages to me that say, “Everything you’ve gone through won’t be wasted.” So I believe it with all my heart.

A children’s book by another single mom I know Sir Trump-a-lot available at Amazon.