This is so blasted true.
I recently read a book dedication and wish I would have written down or notated which author gave it, but it went something like this (paraphrase)…
Dedication: “To my wife and children without whom I would have finished writing this book two to three years ago.”
I bloody busted out laughing. With family, whom we love dearly of course and understand the pauses that need to be taken when they, um, need to eat and important stuff like that, finding writing time while working and raising a child is difficult. Not only that, my widowed mother lives with us, and dear Lord Jesus forgive me, but she needs a lot of help too – All. The. Time. – and she’s young and in perfect health and has more energy than I do (#fibromyalgiaproblems) – she’s only 66.
As an aside, one should not depend on his/her spouse to do everything or most things for them. Best to learn how to do stuff oneself, everything possible, learning new things always, so in the event that the spouse is no longer around, their possibly not always in so good health, single mother daughter or son, etc. etc. doesn’t have to bear the load of doing everything his/her spouse used to do.
The load is too much for me, and I often have to tell my mother ‘I can’t help you right now’ leaving her with a long accumulating list for me to take care of and a pressure on me that can be utterly stifling. <= Though, I’ve written a hefty amount of notes on this entire experience and believe there’s a great Rom Com novel I can get out of it. LOL.
All fodder beloveds. All great flippin’ fodder. (Romans 8:28). Plus, I’m an INFP personality type – very introverted and need a lot of recharging time so that makes it more comical <= Well, not in real life but for story purposes.
Anyway, the law is true. When I just want a little extra writing time, whilst the family is sleeping, and I try to be oh so quiet, by golly, I make so much noise. E.g bump into stuff, drop stuff, etc. etc. etc. then here they come needing stuff from me, and bye bye for now writing time.
Such is the life of a writer.